
Christmas is always a bit weird to me to be honest. If I'm speaking for myself, I've been raised in two different families in two different episodes of my life and I suddenly got a third (big) family as late as when I was sixteen years old, so Christmas has always brought a certain type of ambivalent feeling to me. Being far from the families that remains (many of the key people from my childhood Christmases have passed away in recent years), this years Christmas* was for me a time of reflection more than anything else.
Now this was not what I wanted to speak about today, but I thought I'd might answer one of the questions I received on my previous post from yesterday. This one is from "Manolo":
"It would be interesting to hear what you see is the the difference
between Christmas and New Year, and Christmas and your blog
(which also is kind of commercial). Thanks!"
I realize that speaking about ideologies as this one, is as tricky as discussing politics with a group of mixed minds. People have different world-views and they are hard to move around once you're absolutely convinced of your personal standing. I haven't yet had the energy to confront the many upset republicans who urged me to explain myself when I made this post. But even if I did tell my view (which is that whomever it would have been that opposed Mr Romney and his old-fashion ideologies about what rights a woman or a homosexual should have 2012, he would have got my vote**, Obama in this case), republicans would still be upset with me because I didn't pay attention to the tax issue and the financial situation of the country. Questions which completely flew out of the window the moment I realized that a man with such huge influence and potential power, was suggesting that women shouldn't have the right to have control over their own lives and bodies. Even if I think it should be obvious that the bigoted mentality that Romney stands for shouldn't be embraced and promoted in a modern society in the twenty-first century, there will always be people who choose to put those particular questions aside and instead aim focus to something entirely different.
So back to the complexity of Christmas. I do believe that Christmas is a good tradition in the sense that family and friends can get together and enjoy good food and cozy moments in the company of each other, and that is the part of it that I enjoy. But on the other hand, I see the so called celebration as something utterly destructive in the sense that it creates such stress and pressure to many people for no real, legitimate reason. First of all we mustn't forget why our societies around the globe have decided to celebrate on each December 25th (24th in some cases) - and that is to commemorate the birth of Jesus. Now, I am not a believer of Jesus to begin with, but I can understand the ones of you who are and that this day might be a grand day for you in that aspect. But for me it is as alien to celebrate the birth of baby jesus as it is to get married and have children just because "everyone else does it". Furthermore, along these materialistic years of our existence, Christmas has sort of lost it's original, peaceful meaning, and instead become a commercialized event where stores put up Christmas music and decorations and begin to push gift items already in late summer, using Christmas as an excuse to run sales.
The further we move (sail) away from the materialistic world, the more disgusted do I become of overconsumption in general. While Alex and I still enjoy good, qualitative things, we do not want the need of them to control or consume too much of our lives. I know that many people on this planet are trapped in the hysteria of constantly adding more products, clothes, gadgets and things to their lives, and I can only see that as something wasteful when I know there is a certain peace and fullness that comes with owning and wanting less. But of course, that is only my personal view and of course if material is important to you, you will naturally think I am a fool for suggesting a Christmas without the stress of decorating and maxing your credit card while supporting the stores and the whole commercial campaign that it is.
After all this is said, it might be interesting for some to raise the question, "what is the different between Christmas as a commercialized institution, and our blog which obviously serves as a means of income through sponsored goods and advertising campaigns?" And while I in no way feel obliged to defend ourselves because one commercial phenomenon doesn't necessarily need to be connected to another, I can anyway share what I see is the difference for the ones who might see things differently. Firstly, this blog is not here to fool you to buy things for the sake of a greedy market and a twisted society, smartly covered in jolly red paper, jingle bells and old fat men with white long beard. You do not actually spend money on reading this blog but you visit this space because you want inspiration or a quick escape from your every day life. This blog is what you could compare with your favorite (or most hated in some cases) magazine which is supported by advertising and sponsored campaigns, because let's face it, a glossy magazine cannot support itself just by producing material and distributing the magazine to its readers. Just as we cannot sail around the world and share our story with you as frequently as we do just by sailing and writing about our experiences. Bonus for you though is that you don't even have to pay to read this magazine which you probably would need to do for a printed equivalent. And if you do not like the ads or the content of this blog, you are free to leave and never return. I think we've been pretty transparent with the way we make money through this blog and it should be quite obvious to you that you in no way are obliged to pay for the time you spend on here. But of course if companies are interested in showing themselves for our dear readers, they are more than welcome to pay us for the wide publicity we are able to offer and in that way we can continue sharing this journey with you all. You might see it with another sort of glasses, but we choose to think of it as a win-win situation where we all gain a piece of pleasure.
Just like most of you, we too must have a job that brings food to the table and this blog is one of the ways we have chosen as a way to support ourselves. But that doesn't in any way mean that I would feel the need of supporting a hysterical tradition that is only there to make us all spend as much money as we possibly can - because I simply don't see the point in it. But then again, that is only my side of the story and in whatever way you choose to spend this time of the year, it is totally up to you. Sometimes I just wished that more people would question the things that are happening around us in the society, rather than being yet another follower that does things just the way "they've always been done". A lot of stress and anxiety would be released from this world if more people would learn to do only the things that they truthfully felt were right and natural to themselves rather than paying too much attention to what we have been taught in school, media, church or on the streets of our local society.
And lastly, what do I see as the difference between New Year and Christmas? Well as long as it has no religious association or if it doesn't urge me to spend my money on things PLUS if there's a party to be had, how could I disapprove. The end of another year also quite brilliantly marks the start to a new beginning and you all should know how much I love new beginnings. Life is a beautiful wonder and we should find reasons to celebrate it as much as we can with the ones that we love without stress nor anxiety. Be it during Christmas, New Year or any other given day of the year.
** My passive, mental vote that is as I am not American and thus am or were in no position to actually and physically give my vote in the election.
13 comments:
Very interesting blog.
I left this comment on Facebook but found it would also do some good here.
Great Post:D. Christmas to us as well has become a sort of strange thing. At the moment it's mainly about the children, although I don't remember quite SO MANY PRESENTS when I was a child as the kids get today. Why is it that kids get so much for Christmas yet go into debt during College? Priorities don't seem to be in place.
We adopted a "no presents" Christmas a few years ago. We don't buy presents for anyone, and we don't expect anything from anyone. Instead we like to visit, eat and have a good time with pretty lights. It's so not about the presents.
For little nephews and nieces we set up a College Savings plan instead and put money each month into it with the understanding that we won't buy them presents on their birthday or at Christmas. Seems more meaningful and less wasteful for us. They get Plenty of presents from everyone else.
Merry Christmas to you both!
Taru,
It is amazing to see that a woman as beautiful as you, is also able to write like you do in your second or third language, and express such intellectual concepts in so pleasing and unique a fashion. Please don't take that asanything other than a well deserved compliment. I hope Alex realizes how lucky he is to have you at his side It's always a treat to see your excellently posed photos, read tales of your ever changing cruising existence, and hear some of your very personal insights into life. May you both have a very merry completely non-commercial Christmas, and a very happy and healthy and peaceful new year of new adventures at sea.
Hey Taru! It feels like forever since we were last in touch.
Above any Christmas wishes, I hope your 2013 is amazing and you have a fantastic New Year!!! :)
I'm in the same boat as you, when it comes to Christmas. I like the festivities of being together as family and celebrating 'time together'. Rather than the commercial qualities of Christmas, or what it has become.
We lost my sister in a fatal car crash on Christmas day a few ago, and the day before she died we received her wedding invitation. Probably the most climatic event I've ever been through. Christmas day would never be the same, for sure, from now onwards. But now I make Christmas day a special day.... Not to celebrate anything about the birth of jesus, but to celebrate the life of my sister, who was one of the most beautiful and dearest people to me. So that's my version of Christmas. To be positive and use it as a day to celebrate something that means so much more to me.
*I like you - am not a jesus believer, either.* - I believe more in the universe than anything else. (How could we not, being the travelers that we are~!?)
And in regards to your previous post that you linked... I just went and read the comments. LOL. All I can say is that... Some people really are living in a land I call: IDIOT-VILLE. (I laugh to how some of these dumbies comment on your post as if you really give a flying fuck about their political opinions, when really you weren't even starting a political convo, but just stating some joy over some great news.)
Well my friend... All I can say is I hope you have a truly wonderful new year and that you keep up this fantastic journal.
Who knows - might see you on some side of the world at some stage?
Bisous,
Dakota xoxox
Dani, like I also said in a response on Facebook, it really is a smart idea, saving money for the kids rather than buying them stuff they anyway will get bored with in a few weeks. I think it's great that children at an early age get to learn that products or things aren't that important after all, but real things are, like education and or real life experiences.
Anonymous: Thank you and the very same well wishes to you.
Dakota I had no idea about your terrible loss... I will write more to you shortly, and yes we should def meet at some point, we're still hoping to sail to your New Zealand this upcoming year. I just checked in on your blog and like always I'm breath taken by the beauty you capture in your unique and very special way. Speak soon xo
merry christmas and happy new year
Nice post Taru, I think this lifestyle lends itself well to leaving the whole Christmas thing behind. My kids didn't get any presents yesterday. Do they care? Do they even know? No, of course not, because we choose to not be a part of the nonsense. Our family gets new things when we NEED them, not when we WANT them. It's really as simple as making that distinction—a distinction that becomes very easy to make when you live on a sailboat. Enjoy the upcoming journey to Colombia.
Thank you.
very nicely said!
Great post! We did go back to San Antonio for our son's graduation/Christmas with family which was wonderful. All gifts were small and inexpensive, but meaningful to the giver and receiver. Boat life forces you to "downsize" and be practical. Our gift to each other was a new chart plotter!
I would love to comment on this post, but I have to catch a flight to Buenos Aires! I'll make it short and sweet and say that I agree with you completely. I wish you an incredible 2013!!!
love the post ... christmas is for family time and if you christian like i am about celebrating a part of your religion your blogs amazing better than any magazine and for that you deserve renumeration.
keep well
may 2013 bring you both safety, happiness, love and new memories.
p.s. never stop blogging
Pat: That's how we would tackle it too if we would have children. I think it's definitely easier to have this approach once you live on a boat and when you slowly get to realize that you don't actually have much need for stuff. Really, when you break it down, there isn't much things that we actually need in the end. Glad to have found that out, I wasn't always in the same state of mind.
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